Get By Giving
There are four kinds of people:
- Givers who give with self interest and feel good simply by the act of giving are getting more by giving. They “get-to” give. They give purposefully.
- Givers who give out of obligation and duty want to check off the fact that they did their giving for now. They’ve “got-to” give. Their giving uses energy. Ultimately, they feel empty.
- Takers are constantly on the prowl to get.
- Matchers keep score and are disappointed almost always when what they have given has not been at least equally reciprocated. Their quid-pro-quo score keeping comes from fear.
Recent research by Wharton’s Adam Grant, shows that the first group (givers who give with self interest) congregate around the top 10% of successful and happy people.
A good reminder to all of us. Give because we “get-to.”