Networking Questions to Connect

The Vance Caesar Group proudly presents the following 100 questions. People tell us they are great for helping you connect with others faster. We wish you abundant relationships that give you energy!

Whom do you admire most? In what way does that person inspire you?
Who is the one person who has done the most to make you who you are today? How was that person significant to you?
If you knew of a way to use your estate, following your death, to greatly benefit humanity, would you do it and leave only a minimal about to your family? Why? Why not?
What was the most risky decision you ever made in you life? Why was the risk so great?
Tell about one missed opportunity in your life.
What is the one thing about yourself you like the best?
If by magic you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Why?
One-minute questions that can be answered with a word or phrase:
1. What is the one quality you value the most?
2. What did you always want to be when you were young?
3. Who is your favorite hero? and why?
Suppose you were told that you have six months to live. What would you do in that time?
To whom in the group do you feel closest? Why?
You have one minute to say anything you want without using any words.
When was the last time you cried in front of another person? By yourself?
What has been your biggest disappointment in life? Your biggest failure?
When was the last time you felt powerless?
What will you be when you grow up? And what have you become so far?
Make a “gratitude” list and share ten things for which you are particularly grateful.
Tell us something about yourself that will help us know you better.
Discuss you relationship with your mother and/or father. What was it like growing up?
Diagram “Life’s Pie”. What percentage of the time do you spend on business, personal and family? What percentage of time would you like to spend?
Finish this sentence: “What I expect from people is…“Possible substitutes for the word “people” are spouse, children, parents and/or employees. Example:
1. What I expect from my family is _________________.
2. What I get from my family is ___________________.
3. What I give to my family is _____________________.
When was the last time you felt intimidated?
What is your greatest success in business, personal and family? Your greatest failure?
If you were giving a dinner party and could invite any three people (living or dead), who would you invite? Why?
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
What would constitute a “perfect” evening for you? How about a perfect 90 day vacation?
Would you rather be extremely successful professionally and have a tolerable yet unexciting private life, or have an extremely happy private life and only a tolerable and uninspiring professional life?
What is your most treasured memory?
Have you ever hated anyone? If so, why and for how long?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? Is there anything you hope to do that is even better?
If you knew you could devote yourself to any single occupation – music, writing, acting, business, politics, medicine, etc. – and be among the best and most successful in the world at it, what would you choose? If you only knew you had only ten percent chance of being so successful, would you still put in the effort?
You house, containing everything you own, catches fire; after saving you loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be?
When were you last in a fight? What caused it and who won?
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
What is the worst psychological torture you can imaging suffering? (Anything causing even minor physical injury should not be considered.)
When has your life dramatically changed as a result of some seemingly random external influence? How much do you feel in control of the course of your life?
When did you last yell at someone? And why? Did you later regret it?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? If so, what?
If you were helping to raise money for a charity and someone agreed to make a large contribution if you would perform at the upcoming fundraising show, would you? If so, what would you like to perform? (Assume the show would have an audience of about 1,000.)
Would you like to be famous? If so, in what way?
How do you picture your funeral? Is it important for you to have people mourn you death?
Is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? What would it take for you to do it now?
Knowing you had a 50 percent chance of winning and would be paid 10 times the amount of your bet if you won, what fraction of what you now own would you be willing to wager?
What are your most compulsive habits? Do you regularly struggle to break these habits?
What do you most strive for in your life: accomplishment, security, love, power, excitement, knowledge, or something else?
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel you childhood was happier than most other people’s?
Does the fact that you have never done something before increase or decrease its appeal to you?
Since adolescence, in what three-year period do you feel you experienced the most personal growth and change?
If you could take a one-month trip anywhere in the world and money was not a consideration, where would you go and what would you do? Who would be with you?
Have you ever considered suicide? What is so important to you that without it life would not be worth living?
Who is the most important person in your life? What could you do to improve the relationship?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Do you believe in any sort of God? If not, do you think you might still pray if you were in a life-threatening situation?
Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
What do you value most in a relationship?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Do you judge others by higher or lower standards than you use to judge yourself?
If you had to spend the next two years inside a small but fully provisioned Antarctic shelter with one other person, who would you like to have with you?
What things are too personal to discuss with others?
How many of your friendships have lasted more than ten years? Which of your current friends do you feel will still be important to you ten years from now?
What do you like best about your life? Least?
Can you be counted on to do what you say you’ll do? What does it take for you to trust someone?
Do you feel you have much impact on the lives of people you come in contact with? Can you think of someone who, over a short period of time, significantly influenced your life?
Of all the people close to you, whose death would you find most disturbing?
What would you like to be doing five years from now? What do you think you will be doing five years from now?
What important decision in you professional life have you based largely upon your intuitive feelings? What about in your personal life?
If you were guaranteed honest responses to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask?
Do you feel that children should be sheltered from unhappiness? What from your childhood has proved most valuable? Most difficult to overcome?
I’m becoming the kind of person who . . .
I would like to be . . .
I am most successful when . . .
I get angry when . . .
My relationship to authority is . . .
What I like best about myself is . . .
“Legacy” Exercise:
1. What do you owe your family upon your death?
  1. Questions to answer could include:
  2. What would you put on a video or letter to your spouse and children?
  3. What do you want your children to remember about you?
  4. What kind of values do you want to impart to your family?
  5. What would you leave to whom? Why?
  6. What would your eulogy say? Include quotes from your spouse, kids, a peer, an employee, a friend.
A motto for my life is:
1. Where I was 5 years ago was:
2. Where am I now is:
3. Where I will be in 5 years is:
If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be? Can you make this change alone?…or…what help or support do you need to make this change?
List the three best and worst things that happened to you in the last five years.
1. How have these experiences changed you?
2. What did you learn?
3. What advice would you give others approaching similar situations?
List the three most important issues facing you this year. What are you doing about these issues? What help do you need to face and/or resolve these issues?
List your five biggest fears and their impact on you today.
1. Could any of these fears be self-fulfilling?
2. Who else have you shared these fears with and what was their reaction?
3. Do you think these fears are capable of resolution or will they be continuous and ongoing?
4. If resolvable, what help do you need?
List ten values or life’s guidelines that you would like to impart to you children.
1. How did these values come to be important to you?
2. Have you been personally successful in leading you life by these same values?
3. To date, have you been successful in imparting these values to your children?
4. Which items on your value list would surprise others who know you?
Name 20 ways you have earned money in you life so far.
What do you like or appreciate about the person sitting to your left?
Who is the one person who has done the most to make you who you are today? How was that person significant to you?
What is the most risky decision you ever made in your life? Why was the risk so great?
Please describe one missed opportunity in your life?
What is the one thing about yourself you like best?
If by magic you could change one thing about yourself what would it be and why?
1. How have these experiences changed you?
2. What did you learn?
What is the one quality you value most?
What did you always want to be when you were young?
Suppose that you were told that you have six months to live. What would you do with that time?
If you have one minute to say anything you want to our group without using any words, how would you communicate it.
When was the last time you cried in front of another person? By yourself?
What has been your biggest disappointment in life? Your biggest failure?
When was the last time you felt powerless?
What will you be when you grow up and how is that different from what you have become so far?
If you had a gratitude list, what would be the top ten things on it?
What do/will you feel when you are who you want to be?
What do I look like when I am at my best?
What was your most rewarding work? What will it be?
What advice or words of wisdom would you like to pass on to those close to you?